Guest Post #3 from Aaron – Holiday MBTI x Love Languages

Today we have another guest post from Aaron!  He analyzes two of my favorite topics (personality types and love languages!) and provides some interesting insights that are good to keep in mind as the season of shopping is upon us.  Don’t forget to also check out his first and second guest post if you haven’t already.

From Aaron:

Recently Heidi Priebe conducted a survey that asked for participants’ personality types and love languages and found the top love language for each personality type. This article has been making its rounds through social media, and with good reason; the Myers Brigg’s Type Indicator is very popular and the more recent “Love Languages” has been gaining ground.  It’s interesting to see people begin indicating their MBTI in lieu of their horoscope on dating sites. If you don’t know your personality type, you can discover yours with these 64 questions. You can find your love language(s) here.

I took things a step further.

I placed all the results side by side, heat mapped it by personality type and by love language, and searched for correlations and outliers. I began wondering if the population in general leans in a certain direction so I added in % of population for each category.  MBTI population numbers are pulled from the authoritative CAPT.  Love language data was more dispersed, but every poll I found in general had Quality Time at the top, followed by Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, and Acts of Service in a close middle, and Receiving Gifts at the bottom.

Take a look!







Artisans have the most extremes. Expressive in their own way.  _S_Ps show up multiple times in the Takeaways.  

I tried slicing and dicing by, for example, all Es, or all INs, but that didn’t give me anything insightful. If you like, feel free to play with the data here.

The biggest takeaway is that it’s ironic that our hyper materialistic society appreciates gifts the least.  Perhaps this is just another telltale sign that Americans overemphasize our careers and wealth. The illusion that if we can simply buy ourselves and others enough gifts we will have loved and felt loved is complete farce. Or is it simply that humans innately require relationships and physical touch? Everyone is so busy these days and we all have so little time.  It’s been often said that with the internet and our smartphones we’re all more connected than ever, but at the same time, more lonely than ever.  Does “feeling lonely in a crowded room” strike a chord?  In this age where we set up dinners a month in advance lest everyone is booked, and a few button clicks gets our Christmas shopping done, gifts, and even acts of service where there is an app for everything from doing your laundry to filling up your gas, are cheap. We all gravitate towards that which the internet and our electronics have stolen away from us and aren’t able to provide, even through instant messaging and video chat–constructive face to face time where we truly connect with one another and affirm our care for each other, sealed with a hug when we say goodbye.  So next time you want to love on someone, simply take a moment, put your phone away, break from outside distractions, and tell them you care.  But if you’re dealing with an ISTP, pick up a coffee for them and give them a hug. =]

Remember what the true meaning of Christmas is. It’s not about gifts, it’s about the relationships: friends, family, and God’s gift of Jesus so we might have a relationship with him.

Merry Christmas everyone.